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Everyone wants to live a happy, healthy and fulfilling life, but many people don’t. Dr Richard Harmer, a developmental psychologist and personal transformation coach, has helped 1000s of people to pursue their best life aligned to their unique passions, purpose and potential. In this podcast, Richard unpacks the best of what developmental psychology, positive mindset and the human potential movement has to offer and dispels the common misconception that life is meant to be a struggle.
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Tuesday Dec 13, 2022
Tuesday Dec 13, 2022
Ready, Set, Change — navigating the “messy middle” of change.
In the last episode of The Positive Change Podcast, I explore the three phases of psychological transition through any significant change:
Phase 1: Endings
Phase 2: Neutral Zone
Phase 3: New Beginnings
In this episode (Part 2 of my Thriving Through Change masterclass recorded live with a client), I dive into Phase 2 and the “messy middle” of change.
The problem is the Neutral Zone of change is often anything but neutral, which is why most change efforts take significantly longer than planned.
(I could have spent a whole episode on the importance of practicing Radical Acceptance when in the Neutral zone of change as a way of making change go faster, but I’ll leave that to another time).
When navigating the middle phase of any change, it's important to recognise what needs to change and to ensure that both the external and observable aspects of change AND the internal and more subjective aspects of a change or considered, planned for, and implemented.
But simply ensuring that all change efforts focus on what needs to change about mindsets, culture, behaviours, and structures isn’t enough.
You see, in the “messy middle” of change, the key thing that’s changing (and often forgotten about) is the roles people play with each other—for example: “fixer,” “supporter,” “agitator,” “sounding board,” etc.
When we experience “noise” or “tension” with others during change, it is often because the roles we play with others have changed, and we haven't realised.
Renegotiating our role relations with others is essential to supporting a timely transition into the New Beginnings phase of the change journey.
Check out this episode of The Positive Change Podcast to learn more.
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Watch this episode here: https://youtu.be/1D1gcSnETF8
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Tuesday Nov 29, 2022
Tuesday Nov 29, 2022
Ready. Set. Change!
Constant change truly is the new norm for so many. Partnering with people and organisations as they strive to thrive through change is my “sweet spot” and I love supporting people to build the clarity and courage to navigate change successfully.
There is no single approach to change (obviously!), but the Bridges Model of Change and Transition does provide a helpful mental model for how individuals and groups might journey through change and psychological transition.
In the last month alone, I have delivered several short Masterclasses on how to thrive through change. For each, I have used the Bridges Model as a way of supporting people to understand where they might be “at” in their own process of change.
So, in this first episode of Season 3 of The Positive Change Podcast, I decided to record myself delivering a recent Thriving Through Change Masterclass with a corporate client of mine.
In this episode, I unpack:
- the core reason to initiate any change
- the difference between change and psychological transition
- the two foundational emotions people experience when change is announced and what to do about each, and
- the three fundamentals for helping people get focused on the future.
In the next episode of The Positive Change Podcast, I’ll dive into what I refer to as the “messy middle” of change and share why it can become messy and what to do about it so that change flows.
Take a listen to the latest episode of The Positive Change Podcast and let me know what you think.
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Watch this episode here: https://youtu.be/NQPWax69J5E
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Friday Oct 07, 2022
Friday Oct 07, 2022
The thing I love about producing The Positive Change Podcast every few weeks is that it's an opportunity for me to review my current work focus, and to reflect upon what is important about where I invest my time and energy.
For the past two years, I’ve produced 27 episodes of this podcast across two seasons. Each season represents a change in focus for what I wanted to explore through The Positive Change Podcast—and what I thought mattered most to the change makers that listen to each episode.
I’ve covered topics like facing your fear; naming, claiming, and exploring your purpose; finding and maintaining your life’s flow; fostering positive mindsets for yourself and others; and my philosophy to running a good business (I’ve been running my own management consulting business for over 20 years now).
And what I’ve noticed these past few episodes is that it’s time, again, for me to ask that all-important question: Am I pursuing the right things in my life and work at this time?
You see, you and I both have one important life to live. How we experience that one life is essential to what we focus on each day, week and year, and how we create a positive impact.
So, in this episode, I take stock of The Positive Change Podcast, where it is at, and what might come next for the podcast in support of helping change makers deal with complex and transformational change.
HINT: The Positive Change Podcast is making a change and Season 3 is set to commence next episode!
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Watch this episode here: https://youtu.be/hCoYdGrOOMQ
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Haven’t left a review yet? All you have to do is go to iTunes, and thanks for supporting this podcast.
I want to invite you to help contribute to this podcast by submitting a question for a #Q&AEdition of The Positive Change Podcast. All you have to do is comment down below and ask a question that could be featured on an upcoming episode.
Tuesday Sep 13, 2022
Tuesday Sep 13, 2022
Establishing and building strong networks is an essential element of thriving as a change-maker and entrepreneur.
As the saying goes, “a problem shared is a problem halved”. It's through our customer, client, family, and friendship networks (to name but a few networks) that we find the essential just-in-time support and guidance we need to overcome any challenge.
The problem is, sometimes our relational networks are missing the x-factor … and often we don’t even know it.
Given how important deep relationship networks are to thriving in life and work, especially during times of change, it's essential that you regularly reflect upon the diversity and strength of your relationships.
In this episode of The Positive Change Podcast, I unpack the four common mistakes that change makers, business owners and entrepreneurs make in establishing and maintaining authentic, relational networks.
And in doing, I also uncover a gap compromising my own current relational network.
This episode of the Positive Change Podcast can be supportive of our own flourishing in several ways, so listen in and let me know what you think.
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Watch this episode here: https://youtu.be/N8Tw9qEwa0g
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VIEW MORE POSITIVE CHANGE PODCAST EPISODES HERE: https://www.richardharmer.com/ThePositiveChangePodcast
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Haven’t left a review yet? All you have to do is go to iTunes, and thanks for supporting this podcast.
I want to invite you to help contribute to this podcast by submitting a question for a #Q&AEdition of The Positive Change Podcast. All you have to do is comment down below and ask a question that could be featured on an upcoming episode.
Tuesday Aug 30, 2022
Tuesday Aug 30, 2022
As a collective society now is a high time to call upon more compassion towards ourselves and more so to each other.
Cultivating compassion goes beyond feeling empathy, concern or pity for others. It develops the strength to cope with suffering, to take compassionate action and have the strong want to alleviate that suffering.
Kindness goes a long way and is a great first step but compassion is what brings change to people’s lives and makes a positive difference for everyone.
Tune in as I talk about compassion and the three lenses from which you can view it as well as the value in practicing compassion and how we benefit from it as an individual and a collective society.
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Watch this episode here: https://youtu.be/RcEwlPszGIg
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VIEW MORE POSITIVE CHANGE PODCAST EPISODES HERE: https://www.richardharmer.com/ThePositiveChangePodcast
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Haven’t left a review yet? All you have to do is go to iTunes, and thanks for supporting this podcast.
I want to invite you to help contribute to this podcast by submitting a question for a #Q&AEdition of The Positive Change Podcast. All you have to do is comment down below and ask a question that could be featured on an upcoming episode.
Tuesday Aug 09, 2022
Tuesday Aug 09, 2022
There’s one thing a lot of people often find hard to let go of– expectations.
When our reality does not match our expectations, most of us would feel disappointed, frustrated; our minds react negatively.
This disconnect makes it feel like our efforts are not enough or that ultimately we are not enough.
We need to learn to understand our expectations of others, of situations, and of ourselves.
That’s why this episode will be all about letting go of expectations and why it is important to do so in pursuing our full potentiality.
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Watch this episode here: https://youtu.be/CETnz9q8OZ4
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I want to invite you to help contribute to this podcast by submitting a question for a #Q&AEdition of The Positive Change Podcast. All you have to do is comment down below and ask a question that could be featured on an upcoming episode.
Friday Jul 22, 2022
Friday Jul 22, 2022
Life isn’t linear, there will always be ups and downs that come our way. A question that is often asked is ‘how do you cope and sustain yourself with these ups and downs’.
You’ve probably heard about mantras and affirmations because of their rise in popularity as of late. You’ve probably even tried them yourself. I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again, words hold power that can help make a difference. That’s why I thought it would be great to share with you my 20 personal mantras I say to myself when I need a reminder or a small push to stick to the right path. You can use them as is or as an inspiration to start your own list of mantras and affirmations.
In this week's episode I’ll be talking a little bit about my personal process of staying enthusiastic as well as sharing my inner psychology in my day to day life.
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Watch this episode here: https://youtu.be/HzYhi27zjIQ
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VIEW MORE POSITIVE CHANGE PODCAST EPISODES HERE: https://www.richardharmer.com/ThePositiveChangePodcast
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Haven’t left a review yet? All you have to do is go to iTunes, and thanks for supporting this podcast.
I want to invite you to help contribute to this podcast by submitting a question for a #Q&AEdition of The Positive Change Podcast. All you have to do is comment down below and ask a question that could be featured on an upcoming episode.
Tuesday Jun 14, 2022
Tuesday Jun 14, 2022
We experience moments in life where we know and realize that we need to shift the course of our lives in order to be truly happy. These moments are often scary, or may make us feel uncertain BUT know that it will lead to a change that allows us to grow, evolve, and finally become who we were meant to be.
I've said it before and it has been said by many, “Change starts with yourself” easy to say but of course not the easiest to do. Knowing that you can start the change with yourself is different from actually taking the first step towards the change, which is known to be the hardest step of all.
Join me in this episode as I double down on readying yourself as the changemaker that you truly are. I’ll also be sharing 15 action items that you need to do in order to really ignite the change you want to see in the world
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Tuesday May 17, 2022
Tuesday May 17, 2022
I've been talking about positive change and how it is a wonderful thing to experience and how it's necessary for building success and happiness. BUT what I haven't discussed is how can someone tell that change is needed in their lives. More importantly, can a person tell if they are ready to undergo positive change?
Change is an unavoidable constant in our lives. Some changes are not in our control but you'd be surprised to know that most changes need our active participation. But sometimes it can be hard to know when it’s time to make a change. We can feel stuck, scared, or overwhelmed by the situation, and this causes us to worry over whether it really is time to make a change.
So yes there is a way of knowing if we're ready for change. Regardless of whatever stage we are in our lives or any endeavor, we will be able to create positive if we know how to prepare for it and we can recognize the phases of going through change. Hesitation and doubts will come but the best way to welcome positive change in our lives is to be ready for it.
Join me in this podcast episode as we go through the four fundamental experiences that we go through before undergoing a change in our lives. Learn about the indicators that let you know when you are ready for positive change.
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So, in relation to this episode, I am working on a FREE, simple Change Readiness Survey and Feedback Report to help people recognize
- when it's time for change; and
- how to ready themselves for that change.
And that’s where I need your help.
Even though the assessment and report will be free for people, it also has to work.
So, I invite you to fill in a short Change Readiness Survey - well, 2 actually.
- The FIRST is a primer asking about whether change is on your horizon.
- The SECOND (if a change is on your horizon) asks you about how prepared you are for that change.
Fill in both and I will send you a short report about your results and 3 top tips for getting ready for your change. Plus, I'll ask you for some feedback on the survey itself to make sure it works as intended.
The link to the survey is:
https://www.richardharmer.com/assessments/2147606186
Thanks for helping me out!
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Watch the video form of this episode here: https://youtu.be/-Py5PFpZ52k
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Tuesday Apr 19, 2022
Tuesday Apr 19, 2022
What changes do you want to make in any aspect of your life? Then proceed to think about whether you are able to do it or not. If you are able to do it, then start making these meaningful changes in your life. If your answer is that you're not able to make the change, I want you to think about the reason why. Because if the only thing that's stopping you is your doubt then the one thing you need to learn is SELF EFFICACY.
This refers to your belief about your ability to effectively perform the tasks needed to attain a valued goal. Self-efficacy does not refer to your abilities but to how strongly you believe you can use your abilities to work toward goals.
If you’re a person who already knows what they want in life or is trying to make changes in their lives but is struggling to do so, then this episode might be for you. Hunker down as I discuss the one skill that has made a lot of people succeed in life and talk about how to make it work for you too!
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Watch the video form of this episode here: https://youtu.be/QZBRucsp4vo
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